Often to solve a problem, one has to find the solution elsewhere. We all have experienced being in an airplane caught in a turbulence. The pilot must stir the airplane above the turbulence for it to be calm.
Finding solution in chaos is not the answer. Journey to that place of stillness in yourself. The answer will come.
Emotional literacy is a learned skill. Often we give ourselves more space, more generosity and kindness to learn a new application for our computer than we do for ourselves in learning a new way of dealing with anger or disappointment. Face the simple facts. The baseline of which our parents modeled for us is simply a baseline that is finite and is based on what they know in terms of emotional skills. It is not about judgment or pointing to where they went wrong or right. It is all about skill acquisition and having enough practice to master it. What happens with emotions is that often is gets tied in with shame. Learning a new skill requires vulnerability and making room for not getting it just right. If you shame someone who is learning an excel program, it is more than likely not going to progress very rapidly if at all. Yet, we engaged in these behaviours in ourselves when we are emoting.
My name is Kathrina Peterson and I invite you to participate in this forum around awareness and movement. I have been a Buddhist meditator for over 20 years and have been exploring in depth what it means to develop as a human being: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This is my passion, both on a personal and a professional level. I welcome you to share thoughts around what it means to be awake.